The sanctity of naptime

 

With two small boys born a very short 18 months apart I am often asked by strangers in shops, at sporting events, or in restaurants if they are twins – to which I respond with a little snort and a single raised eyebrow, “No they aren’t… but they may as well be!” I can’t see why people think they’re twins because they’re quite obviously different sizes, perhaps it’s their matching fair hair and startling blue eyes that does it.

 

The point of the matter is that although they are 18 months apart, they may as well be twins because whatever the one does the other one wants to do, it really is a case of Monkey See Monkey Do in our house. And while this is terribly cute and terribly sweet, it is also terribly challenging and terribly tiring most of the time!

 

Our days are never quiet and they typically start at 5:30am when Malakai’s body clock goes off, and there is no snooze button on that, let me tell you! We never sit still. We are always on the move and when we’re not in the safety of our own home (which has been Stow-Boy-Proofed), I have to be on high alert and watch the two boys constantly. Of course this is getting easier as Harlan gets older, but Malakai is still in the developmental phase that is strongly characterised by unmitigated, fearless, crazy-as-hell exploration!

 

And now they are both realising just how much fun life can be when they team up and attempt a Great Escape. I often have to wonder what a fly on the wall would think when I drop the boys off at crèche in the morning – I won’t lie, some mornings I’ve aged by 5 years in about 15 excruciating minutes… From Harlan hanging off my pants (I know to always wear a belt now) to Malakai’s ritual lick up the side of my face, I am less bothered these days and have thankfully slowed my aging process a bit.

 

But I am still often caught in a split second decision to run after Malakai who’s aimed himself like a speeding bullet at traffic, or a body of water, or whatever other death-defying situation is facing him and Harlan… Mostly I pray like hell that Harlan will stand completely still and heed my calls to ‘Stay there Harlan! Don’t move! Mommy is coming! Stay ok!’ as I do a very unflattering sprint – my cheeks flapping up and down, my not-so-firm-mommy-boobs pushing my hold-it-together-mommy-bra to its limits – to catch Malakai who at this point is laughing his head off at the sight of his mother…

 

So, back to the point of this post…

 

Nap time. That beautiful time of day where all is silent and my children are guaranteed to be safe and sound for at least 2 hours. It is sacred in our house, and as such we treat it with great respect…

 

Thou shalt not venture out between the hours of 12:00 and 14:00

Thou shalt not book any activities or agree to any socialising in the middle of a day

Thou shalt not open the door to any visitors between the very same hours

Thou shalt not mess with our nap time, ever, unless you want to a can of whip opened on your ass

 

And friends always say, “Oh I wish my little one still napped in the day!” to which I respond with another snort and single raised eyebrow, “Do you think my children want to sleep? Re-eeeaaaaa-lllyyy?” Of course they don’t! My children don’t calmly walk up to me and request a little shut-eye… never gonna happen!

 

Instead we beg, threaten and bribe our children to close their sweet little eyes and let mommy and daddy sit for a little bit. Yip – nap time is our saving grace, our little window of sanity, our ‘happy-hour’ and I don’t even want to think of the day that we actually do have to give it up… Hopefully its far, far, far in the future!